Shame is different than guilt. Guilt is a normal reaction to something we have done that is not okay, something that is wrong according to our own values. Shame is a deep feeling of not being worthy, not being normal, not being a good person. …
What is it NOT? Most people think of a stage, a woman (usually a woman) flat as a board lying between two chairs, or clucking like a chicken, or repeating some strange words when a magician snaps his (usually his) fingers—that’s just entertainment. What IS…
People who have endured trauma as children are taught that they should give up. At the hands of an abusive adult, a child has to learn all kinds of ways to survive. Sometimes it’s possible to escape or hide, but not very easily if you’re…
There’s a saying that goes “Perfection is the enemy of the good.” That means that we can sabotage our good work by spending time trying to make it perfect, taking many hours and much effort, just to produce something that may be marginally better. And…